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The Discomfort of Growth

Your comfort zone is, well, comfy!  That is why it is called the comfort zone.

Growth does not happen in the comfort zone.  It happens in the ‘stretch’ zone which, you and I both know is really the ‘discomfort’ zone.  Thing is, if we called it that, none of us would want to knowingly step into that space would we?

Being willing to feel discomfort could be the missing link needed to move you from where you are now – safe, comfy, dissatisfied and frustrated – towards becoming who and what you were destined to be.

But what if the thought of that icky discomfort makes you feel so uncomfortable that you shy away from it any time the possibility of growth shows itself?

Recently, it has come to my attention that this is the space I am in personally.  There are a number of opportunities and several situations in my life right now that all require me to step into my ‘discomfort’ zone.  And I am resisting them all so hard it is almost funny!

How do I know I am resisting it?  Because I have a sudden addiction to Netflix and clearing out my cupboards rather than getting on and dealing with the ‘things’ that are making me feel uncomfortable.

What to do about it?

It is quite simple really.  Ask yourself the following question:

What would your future self advise you to do?

Now, your answer to this question depends very much on who your future self is.

If your future self is exactly the same person, doing the same things, feeling the same ways as you now, then the chances are they are going to advise you NOT to step into the ‘discomfort’ zone.  Otherwise, how could they ensure that everything stays the same?

However, if your future self is a person who is being how you dream of being, doing what you dream of doing and feeling what you dream of feeling, then the chances are they will be yelling at you, literally, to take that step NOW!  Take that leap of faith!  Deal with the situation!  Grasp that opportunity with both hands!  Do it! And grow into the person you have always dreamed of being!!

Guess what?

Less than half an hour ago, I was eating my lunch (watching Netflix – please don’t judge me!) and saying to myself, I don’t want to deal with what I have got to deal with this afternoon.  It is too hard, too scary and too out of my depth.  And then, I asked myself the question – what would your future self advise you to do?

You can tell which future self responded by the very fact that I am writing this blog to you right now!  I chose to take the next step towards growing into being the person I have always dreamed of being.

Will you?

Have an incredible weekend and remember… it is time to Burn Bright, not out!

Donna x

Photo by Ursula Kelly @Studiosoftboxuk

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